A Bizarre but True Story, part 1

We were in love. She had been a heroin junkie and alcoholic party girl for years, but was more and more dedicated to recovery every day. When the brothers woke up after a long hibernation, she disappeared. Her first words to me when she came back were "So, who the fuck are you?" My girlfriend, … Continue reading A Bizarre but True Story, part 1

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Adventures in Love, Romance, & Dissociative Identity Disorder

I've met two of them--a 15 year old wild child and another who's more difficult to pin down, who likes to play in the rain and commune with the wolves. Sometimes, when they come out, they pretend to be her, so unless I know their linguistic quirks and behavioral signs, I can miss them altogether, … Continue reading Adventures in Love, Romance, & Dissociative Identity Disorder

Managing to Live: BPD & the 12 Steps, Part 1

The following explores concepts that I've found helpful for my own recovery. They are partly based on research and observations and partly on a more creative process. I offer them not as conclusions but as the beginning of a conversation. It occurred to me years ago when I was in training to become a nurse … Continue reading Managing to Live: BPD & the 12 Steps, Part 1

Sexual Sobriety, Defined

So, as it turns out, in Sex Addicts Anonymous, each individual defines sexual sobriety for him/herself. After some reflection, I think this is my formulation: Abstinence from "pay for play" relationships (sex workers of all types) Abstinence from pornography Caution with sexual relationships: Commitment is best, to form a container for the emotional energy involved. … Continue reading Sexual Sobriety, Defined